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What is it about this wedding video that made it go viral crazy? Take a look and see if/why it touches you.
L-O-V-E.
We all want that mushy, heart-gushing love in our lives. You can't help but just feel so happy for them. That they make each other completely happy. What makes their vows so special?
I'll tell you that for me, I find it just hopelessly romantic that they admit that the hard times will be rough, and that they will stick it through to the very end.
In the video, the groom shares a story how sometimes things don't go as planned. For his birthday, despite all the careful planning, the cake got burned. They scraped off the burnt as good as they could, stuck candles in it, and sang anyway.
He promised that he would always be the candles in their marriage, despite what burned cakes get thrown their way. Kleenex, please.
If you are struggling in your marriage with keeping that head-over-heels love going strong, don't give up. You are definitely NOT on your own.You're reading a blog about dating your spouse, so you're on the right track!
Matter of fact, it's completely normal. When you are truly love-struck, we need to study the science behind it to appreciate everything that is taking place.
Taken from "The Science of Love": (Here is a peer-reviewed article)
Adrenaline
The initial stages of falling for someone activates your stress response, increasing your blood levels of adrenalin and cortisol. This has the charming effect that when you unexpectedly bump into your new love, you start to sweat, your heart races and your mouth goes dry.
Dopamine
Helen Fisher asked newly ‘love struck’ couples to have their brains examined and discovered they have high levels of the neurotransmitter dopamine. This chemical stimulates ‘desire and reward’ by triggering an intense rush of pleasure. It has the same effect on the brain as taking cocaine!
Fisher suggests “couples often show the signs of surging dopamine: increased energy, less need for sleep or food, focused attention and exquisite delight in smallest details of this novel relationship” .
Serotonin
One of love's most important chemicals that may explain why when you’re falling in love, your new lover keeps popping into your thoughts.
Oxytocin - The cuddle hormone
Oxytocin is a powerful hormone released by men and women during orgasm.
It probably deepens the feelings of attachment and makes couples feel much closer to one another after they have had sex. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes.
Oxytocin also seems to help cement the strong bond between mum and baby and is released during childbirth. It is also responsible for a mum’s breast automatically releasing milk at the mere sight or sound of her young baby.
Diane Witt, assistant professor of psychology from New York has showed that if you block the natural release of oxytocin in sheep and rats, they reject their own young.
Conversely, injecting oxytocin into female rats who’ve never had sex, caused them to fawn over another female’s young, nuzzling the pups and protecting them as if they were their own.
You see, the neurotransmitters from your brain cannot keep producing these chemicals nonstop for the rest of your life. Through time, life will normalize. Hard things keep coming - the cakes may start burning more frequently. But you can reignite those hormones.
Go out to yogurt, and talk about your wedding day. Then make an effort to re spark those hormones.
Read old love notes.
Write new vows to each other.
Watch your own wedding video.
Make a soundtrack of songs that were big when you were dating.
Life may not be all butterflies and rainbows now in comparison to this wedding video, but you can still have that type of commitment towards each other. It a lot of ways, it's better now. Think of all the things you have overcome together as a couple. If it has been weak, make this date all about starting again with the same enthusiasm you once had.
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