Let’s face it, you and your spouse are very different! We
are just not wired the same. Sometimes we may think, why does my spouse have
such a different viewpoint then I do on, money, sports, dating, time
management, work, etc.? Sometimes we
have to put ourselves in our spouse shoes to understand understanding of
certain topics. Let’s go back in time and see where our spouse has came from!
Option 1: If you live somewhat close to the houses you and
your spouse grew up in, take a trip together and look at your old house. While
you are there, talk about your memories there and what life was like in the
house. This may give you and understanding where they have come from and why
your spouse has different viewpoints.
Option 2: If you have them, watch home videos of each other
growing up. Share with each other memories of what it was like growing up with
your family. This may give you and your spouse understanding where each other have
come from and different viewpoints.
Relationship
Reconnection:
After you are either watching home videos, or visiting the
homes you and your spouse grew up, talk about each other’s memories and
thoughts on how you grew up. Share what was the number one thing that you
learned growing up in your family with each other.
This might be an “AHA” or “No Wonder” experience for both
you and your spouse. This will help you find understanding and empathy for each
other. Embrace the differences between you and your spouse, they make your
marriage fun and unique!
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