Fall in Love, with This Questionnaire

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Okay, so you aren’t really going to fall in love with the questionnaire, but hopefully be more in love with your spouse. A study was done to explore intimacy levels between two strangers. During this study couples had a list of questions to ask and answer. They rated their intimacy level with their fellow participant before and after the questionnaire. Many couples rated their intimacy levels higher after engaging in the questionnaire together. It takes 20-30 minutes to ask each other these questions. It is a great way to spend time together, and get to know each other all over again.

Here is the link to the questions: 36 Questions

Tomball Bowl (77377)

Enjoy a night practicing your bowling skills at Tomball Bowl. Go to their Rock N’ Bowl on Fridays and Saturdays from 10pm-1am when the special effects lighting is on and the music gets turned up a notch. The lanes and bowling area are smoke free although, smoking is allowed at the bar equipped with smoke eaters. If you’re thinking of something a little more competitive, join one of their many bowling leagues. Some leagues even have cash prizes!



While you’re there, play John Gottman’s 20 Questions Game to help you rediscover your partner’s hopes, joys, stresses, worries, and inner world. Keeping up to date on each other will help keep your relationship out of the "gutter!" This is a way to really "pin" down what your spouse is feeling and thinking- not just learn about their favorite food and movie. After every bowl, take turns answering a question about each other. Either randomly select a number before looking at the questions or simply go straight down the list. Make sure to keep track of points (You receive the number of points indicated at the end of the question if you answer correctly. You get one point if you have a question answered correctly about you.) Add together your points from the 20 Questions Game and your bowling score to get your overall total and see who won!

20 Questions Game

Ask your partner the question. If your partner answers correctly (you be the judge), he or she receives the number of points indicated for that question, and you receive one point. If your partner answers incorrectly, neither of you receives any points. The same rules apply when you answer. The winner is the person with the higher score after you’ve both answered all twenty questions.(or in this case, one question after each bowl.) 

1. Name my two closest friends. (2)

2. What is my favorite musical group, composer, or instrument? (2)

3. What was I wearing when we first met? (2)

4. Name one of my hobbies. (3)

5. Where was I born? (1)

6. What stress am I facing right now? (4)

7. Describe in detail what I did today, or yesterday. (4)

8. When is my birthday? (1)

9. What is the date of our anniversary? (1)

10. Who is my favorite relative? (2)

11. What is my fondest unrealized dream? (5)

12. What is my favorite flower? (2)

13. What is one of my greatest fears or disaster scenarios? (3)

14. What is my favorite time of day for lovemaking? (3)

15. What makes me feel most competent? (4)

16. What turns me on sexually? (3)

17. What is my favorite meal? (2)

18. What is my favorite way to spend an evening? (2)

19. What is my favorite color? (1)

20. What personal improvements do I want to make in my life? (4)

21. What kind of present would I like best? (2)

22. What was one of my best childhood experiences? (2)

23. What was my favorite vacation? (2)

24. What is one of my favorite weekend activities? (2)

25. Who is my greatest source of support (other than you)? (3)

26. What is my favorite sport? (2)

27. What do I most like to do with time off? (2)

28. What is one of my favorite weekend activities? (2)

29. What is my favorite getaway place? (3)

30. What is my favorite movie? (2)

31. What are some of the important events coming up in my life? How do I fell about them?(4)

32. What are some of my favorite ways to work out? (2)

33. Who was my best friend in childhood? (3)

34. What is one of my favorite magazines? (2)

35. Name one of my major rivals or “enemies.” (3)

36. What would I consider my ideal job? (4)

37. What do I fear the most? (4)

38. Who is my least favorite relative? (3)

39. What is my favorite Holiday? (2)

40. What kinds of books do I most like to read? (3)

41. What is my favorite TV show? (2)

42. Which side of the bed do I prefer? (2)

43. What am I most sad about? (4)

44. Name one of my concerns or worries. (4)

45. What medical problems do I worry about? (2)

46. What was my most embarrassing moment? (3)

47. What was my worst childhood experience? (3)

48. Name two of the people I most admire. (4)

49. Name my major rival or enemy. (3)

50. Of all the people we both know, who do I like the least? (3)

51. What is one of my favorite desserts? (2)

52. What is my social security number? (2)

53. Name one of my favorite novels. (2)

54. What is my favorite restaurant? (2)

55. What are two of my aspirations, hopes, wishes? (4)

56. Do I have secret ambition? What is it? (4)

57. What foods do I hate? (2)

58. What is my favorite animal? (2)

59. What is my favorite song? (2)

60. Which sports team is my favorite? (2)

Denny's (77377)

Remember back to when you were a young couple- before you had any kids. Most likely, if you wanted to catch a last minute movie at 9 o’clock at night, the only problem was deciding what size of popcorn to get. And staying out past 7 p.m. was the norm for date nights. Now, it’s been a while since you’ve seen the moon. However, sometimes there’s a majestic feel to the night when you’re out late, it’s dark, and it’s just the two of you. Denny’s doesn’t scream romance like Paris but it’s open 24/7 and offers a $2, $4, and $6 value menu including the popular never ending pancakes, specialty desserts, and delicious breakfast platters. If you’re not up for a meal try a beverage like coffee, hot cocoa, or a milkshake. If you need, arrange for childcare and go at a time when you normally wouldn’t such as late at night after the kids are in bed or early in the morning- just to stir life up a bit. However, don’t drag the night owl out of bed in the morning or make the early morning riser stay up too late. That wouldn’t be fun for either of you.

Use these questions to initiate discussion:

1.      When was the last time you were out this late or out this early on a date together?

2.      Are you a morning or night person? Are you okay with that or would you rather be the opposite? 

3.       What is a good memory you have of your spouse while they are sleeping? Do they talk in their sleep? Does your spouse move around a lot? 

4.      Talk about the last dream you had. 

5.      Do you like being out at a time you normally wouldn’t be or would you rather have a regular timed date?  

Dollar Store Crafts (77377)

Be a little crafty and inventive on this date as you make something to put in your own home. Use the website Pinterest.com to search for “Dollar Store Crafts.” Browse through the many options and pick something you both would like to create together or choose something for each of you to do. 

Examples might include a 'do it yourself' flower ball bouquet, a 'do it yourself' mason jar solar light, or a 'do it yourself' cupcake stand to show off at birthday parties. There are so many options! Make a list of all the supplies you will need and head to Dollar General. Be creative while you’re there since you might not find the exact items you are looking for. Bring everything home and work on the projects together.

While you’re crafting, answer these questions: 

1.      Do you like to do crafts? Why or why not?

2.      What’s the coolest thing you’ve ever made/ created? 

3.      If you could completely customize your home or apartment, what would you change? Is there anything you would keep exactly how it is? 

4.      What would your favorite color or color scheme be if you were styling your home? 

5.      If you could have a themed room just for yourself, how would you decorate it? What kind of stuff would you have in it? 

Fishing at Spring Creek (77377)

Being outdoors and experiencing the fresh air can lift your spirits and get you out of the grind of everyday life. One way to have an excuse to be outdoors is to go fishing. Whether you’re a professional or the closest you’ve come to a fish is on your flat screen TV, fishing can be a great opportunity for you to get out of the house and be together in a different scene. Stay local and try fresh water fishing along Spring Creek. If you need to purchase permits check out the Texas Parks and Wildlife website where you can purchase them online. Don’t let the idea scare you away if you’ve never been before. Consider asking someone you know who fishes to come along and show you two some basics. Or even research online to learn the basics before getting your supplies and going. Takemefishing.org has lots of information on fishing techniques and some video tutorials to help out.

 While you’re waiting for your big catch, use these questions to initiate discussion: 

1.  Do you like seafood? What’s your favorite seafood dish? 
2.  If you could fish in any lake or sea in the world, where would it be? Why? 
3. When’s the last time you went fishing, if ever? What was your experience like? 
4. What’s your favorite kind of sushi? If you’ve never had it, would you ever consider trying it? (Sounds like another date idea!) 
5. Would you rather live in a sailboat on the ocean for a year never touching land but have all the supplies you need available or live off the land on a beautiful island- working and sweating for your food and provisions? 
6. Have you ever been on a cruise? What was your experience like?     
7. If you could breathe underwater for 24 hours (like a mermaid), how would you spend the day?

Five Guys Burgers & Fries (77377)

The first Five Guys Burgers opened in 1986 in Arlington, VA and was voted #1 burger in the metro area. It has now expanded to over 1,000 locations. One of the reasons why the food is so fresh is that nothing is ever frozen, only cooled. They use their ingredients quickly and the burgers are made to order. There are over 250,000 different ways you can customize your burger. You can also watch the employees cooking your food and how they handle it- right in front of you. The fries are hand cut and cooked in peanut oil which adds a unique flavor and texture.  They also come in large portions. Customers consider the small fries to be enough for two people to share and make sure to try their popular Cajun Fries. This location has very friendly, quick service.

As you enjoy your customized burgers and Cajun Fries, play "20 Questions"- but with a twist. One of you pick a favorite memory of you two in your mind. Don’t tell your partner what it is. Your spouse has to guess the memory by only asking less than 20 yes/no questions. Think of fun dates, memorable holidays, favorite vacations, romantic nights, etc.

Pick your own Fresh Fruit (77377)

Pick your own fresh fruit such as blueberries, blackberries, figs, jujube (Asian dates), Asian persimmons, Asian pears, and pumpkins at the family owned and operated Matt Family Orchard in Tomball. The Matt Family planted their first tree in 1997 and now have over 40 acres, a picnic facility, and a barn with flushable toilets. It’s common to see wildlife around the orchard while you’re there such as deer, foxes, bobcats, coyotes, hogs, rabbits, roadrunners and more. Tours are also available if reserved ahead of time.   


While there, increase your relationship knowledge by asking each other these open ended questions: 

1.      Where would you most like to travel?

2.      What is your favorite childhood memory?

3.      If you could choose any superpower what would it be and why? 

4.      What’s something funny that happened to you this past week?

5.      What’s your favorite day of the week and why?